“I’ll never know, and neither will you, of the life you don’t choose. We’ll only know that whatever that sister life was, it was important and beautiful and not ours. It was the ghost ship that didn’t carry us. There’s nothing to do but salute it from the shore.” -Cheryl Strayed Continue reading

That luminous part…

“Do all the other things, the ambitious things—travel, get rich, get famous, innovate, lead, fall in love, make and lose fortunes, swim naked in wild jungle rivers (after first having it tested for monkey poop)—but as you do, to the extent that you can, err in the direction of kindness. Do those things that incline … Continue reading

That Hard Way…

An honorable human relationship — that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love” — is a process, delicate, violent, often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other. It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion … Continue reading

Germination of Our Remaking

“I’ve become increasingly preoccupied with the confluence of two ideas: first, that memory is a fiction, and second, that while narrativizing experience can be artful, it is also a necessary form of psychological maintenance. No one who has spent serious time trying to write fiction, poetry, or memoir can be too surprised at the benefits … Continue reading

Sweet all at once…

How sweet all at once it was for meto be rid of those fruitless joyswhich I had once feared to lose…You drove them from me,you who are the true, the sovereign joy.You drove them from me and took their place,you who are sweeter than all pleasure,though not to flesh and blood,you who outshine all light,yet … Continue reading

Next Up…

Last night Anna and Gen and I (and current MFA-ers) attended a reading at Ristretto Roasters featuring our favorite Leni Zumas, Sarah Jaffe, and Noy Holland. It was amazing to hear all three women read, and I can’t wait to check out Holland’s collection, Swim for the Little One First. What she read was beautiful, and I … Continue reading


“You can’t teach talent, but you can teach people how to read strenuously and mimic the moves of rock-star writers so that they eventually accumulate a toolbox of skills. No different than baseball players or ballerinas or painters or pianists. A writing teacher is a coach. I’m forcing them to watch footage of games repeatedly. … Continue reading